Have you been told you have anger issues?
Could you use some support in coping with anger?
Is anger in relationships causing difficulty?
Do you find yourself “flipping your lid” or “losing it” and later regret your actions?
If expressing your feelings appropriately or dealing with unresolved anger is an issue, it is vital that you reach out for help.
Quest is here to support you in that process. In just 10 days you will get to the bottom of your anger issues and learn tools and skills to create the life you want.
Anger, in and of itself, is not a bad thing. It is the inappropriate, harmful expression of anger that’s the problem. Anger can take many forms such as:
- You may find yourself irritable, grumpy, petulant or withdrawn.
- You may notice that you hold your breath, your pace becomes faster, your voice louder and emphatic, your gestures blaming or threatening.
- Often, when anger arises, reason flees, and the subsequent behaviors can end in acting out, abuse or even violence, with dire consequences.
- Unresolved anger can also result in poor health, addictions, anxiety, depression, and suicidal thoughts as well as difficulty in relationships and loss of your job.
How does this happen? Here are some experiences that can lay a foundation of anger:
- You may have experienced emotional and/or physical abuse as a child.
- Your boundaries may have been consistently violated.
- Angry outbursts, rage, and even violence may have been commonplace for you growing up.
- Perhaps you were not shown appropriate coping strategies for strong emotions.
- You may have inadvertently learned that anger and aggression are the way to dominate in a relationship, communicate your needs, and exert control.
- You may have been left with feelings of abandonment and betrayal and a deep sense that “the world is not safe.”
These experiences frequently lay a foundation of unconscious fear and/or helplessness that often lead to verbally pushing others away. There may also be extreme reactions to reminders of the trauma, self-harm behaviors, neglecting or abusing others.
If expressing your feelings appropriately or dealing with unresolved anger is an issue for you or someone you care about, Quest can help.
Anger Issues Assessment
If you answer “yes” to more than one of these questions, consider a Quest Retreat to help transform your life.
1. Have you been told you’re aggressive, hot headed or have anger management issues?
2. Do you have trouble maintaining your cool in difficult situations?
3. Is your temper hijacking your relationships and/or work?
4. Do you find yourself in seemingly endless cycles of conflict with others?
5. Is your anger costing you relationships, health and/or money?
6. Have you done something in anger that you wish you could “un-do” or “take back”?
7. Have you broken or destroyed things in anger and frustration?
8. Do you often feel ignored, left out or mistreated by others?
9. Do you sometimes turn to drugs or alcohol when you get upset?
10. Do you feel anxious or depressed when things don’t go your way?
If you would like to talk with one of our therapists about your anger and how we might help, call (707) 322-4626.
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