One of Quest’s areas of specialty is helping you heal codependent behavior as you find your own voice, your own power.
Codependency is generally thought of as:
- Placing the needs of others above your own, to your own detriment.
- Your identity and self worth tend to be tied to the approval of others.
- While disregarding your own needs, you may make extreme sacrifices for others.
- Anxiety tends to increase as you try to control people or situations.
Codependent behavior usually stems from early experiences of neglect and/or emotional abuse where the child was taught to suppress their own needs and meet the needs of those around them. This tends to establish a life-long pattern of trying to get love and care from a difficult person.
It also contributes to unconscious beliefs related to feelings of:
- I’m not okay;
- I’m invisible;
- My needs don’t count; and
- The world isn’t safe.
At Quest, we help you uncover your specific early conditioning and move you from the old programming that keeps you stuck and feeling powerless to a new model and tools for meeting your needs and creating healthy relationships.
Co-Dependent Behavior Assessment
Answering “yes” to several of the questions below indicates that you may benefit from taking a close look at co-dependent behavior at a Quest Retreat.
1. Do you tend to put other’s needs before your own, giving more in relationships than you receive?
2. Do you have difficulty identifying your own needs and feelings?
3. Do you have difficulty asking for what you want?
4. In general, is it difficult for you to receive compliments or praise or to believe that someone deeply cares about you?
5. Do you distrust yourself in favor of what others think or believe you have poor self-esteem?
6. Do you often assume responsibility for the behavior of others?
7. Are you constantly trying to “fix” someone(s) or make things better, often to your own detriment?
8. Do you often fear that others will hurt, abandon or reject you?
9. Have you stayed in relationship with someone who was verbally or physically abusive, or whose addiction (alcohol, drugs, gambling, etc.) was detrimental to the relationship?
10. Have you lost your ambition or ability to function well due to a relationship?
If you would like to talk with one of our therapists about whether Quest is appropriate for you, call us at (707) 322-4626.